Let’s face it: meeting new people can be stressful. For many single people, the mere thought of going on a date triggers sweaty palms and a pounding heart.
That's a shame, because first-date jitters can cause us to behave in ways that turn off a potential partner. A woman is at her most attractive when she is receptive, playful, and open to a man’s interest—radiating warmth like a freshly baked chocolate chip cookie. But when we are overly stressed we appear quite the opposite: rigid, guarded, and maybe even a bit sour. Worse, this nervousness is highly contagious. Your guy may notice that he feels uneasy in your presence —without fully understanding why—and simply decide to avoid your company in the future. Potentially compatible couples can miss out on a love connection because someone was feeling “off” in that first meeting.
If you can find a healthy way to relax both your mind and body before dates, you are guaranteed to reveal your most delicious self, and increase your odds for finding romance. Now, if you already enjoy practicing yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, or other deep relaxation techniques, then by all means keep doing what you’re doing. Simply add a 15-minute relaxation session to your regular beauty routine and you’ll be well set up for a great night. But if this concept is new to you, I want to share a simple set of exercises that are practical and effective, and that you can easily do at home or at the office.
“Love Attraction" Relaxation Practice
5 Easy Steps
1. Use music to channel good vibes. Your tunes don’t have to be calming soundscapes or traditionally soothing in any way. Instead, choose songs that make you feel sexy and confident. Two of my favorites are That Lady by the Isley Brothers and Something Beautiful by Trombone Shorty.
2. Release tension in your upper body with Shoulder Rolls. Great posture instantly transforms your entire look and can make anyone appear healthier and more youthful. This simple exercise will get your blood flowing, and encourage your shoulders to settle down and back—a visual cue to others that you are confident and relaxed, even if you don’t yet feel that way. [Instructional video here.*]
3. Brighten your complexion—and your thoughts—with the Ragdoll Stretch. From a standing position, simply bend over at the waist, as though you are going to touch your toes. Your knees can softly bend as well. Let your arms flop and go limp, or cradle your elbows. Let your head sway gently. Breathe deeply, in and out, in a rhythm that feels good to you. [instructional video here.*]
4. Take a load off, with the Wall Stretch. Any pose that increases blood flow to the brain will help you feel more energized, lively, and fun. This is an inverted posture that is a modified version of a headstand. Lie on your back and scoot toward a wall. Gently walk your feet up the wall, so that your feet and legs are elevated. Just hang out in this position for a few minutes, enjoying the reversed blood flow. Your feet and legs will welcome the relief, as well. [Instructional video here.*]
5. Sit or stand comfortably and laugh. Seriously! Popularly called “laughter yoga,” this type of practice has been around for centuries. Deliberately laughing may seem awkward at first, but over time it will come to feel like any other breathing or deep relaxation technique. Laughter helps bring out the lightness within you. When you’re meeting someone new, leave heavy thoughts of finding The One behind. Bringing a “light” attitude to your dating life—enjoying the moment and letting go of expectations—is a more loving and generous approach, and may ultimately help you connect better with your date.
Robyn Wahlgast is a Rules Certified Dating and Relationship Coach for Women. Need advice about your own dating situation? Consider booking a private consultation with Robyn. Never miss a new blog post: subscribe to our FREE newsletter.
*Instructional videos by Dr. Jeanette Reed / Family Chiropractic Wellness Center
ROBYN ORIGINALLY CREATED THIS ARTICLE, WITH LOVE, FOR THE WELLNESS UNIVERSE.