Success in online dating is partly a numbers game. Only a small percentage of online exchanges will ever result in a first date.
And it’s only through that first date — an actual in-person encounter — that you will know if you and your match have chemistry.
To increase your odds of getting dates you need to attract lots of quality responses. By quality response I mean something more thoughtful than a “hey” and more respectful than an invitation to meet up at his place for “reiki massage training” (real example). Quality messages are more likely to lead to a first date because the men who send them are:
Truly Available and Single. Spoken-for men looking for fun on the side are more likely to send barely-there messages like winks and emojis, hoping you will fill in the blanks. Emotionally available men, by contrast, won’t risk making a weak first impression.
Looking for a Girlfriend as Opposed to a Hotline Bling. Sexual innuendo and racy flirting are signs that this cowboy is not interested in anything long-term. A savvy guy looking for more than a hookup will at least scan your profile and mention a few details from it.
Grown-Up Enough to Know How to Take Action and Make Things Happen.
So how do you create a profile that is more likely to generate lots of responses, including ones that lead to quality dates?
Tip #1: Stick to the Facts and Tone Down the Quirks
School, work, hobbies, interests—these are all fine topics to include in the descriptive part of your profile. But free yourself from the idea that by creating a quirky, unique ad that captures your loveable flaws, odd interests, and kooky sense of humor, you will automatically appeal to your soulmate. That approach only works in romantic comedies.
In real life, your dream guy—the one with the similarly goofy sense of humor and equally adorable personality—will pass right by your “unique” ad. He isn’t searching for “Kooky Girl With Weird Hobbies” —he is searching for “Pretty Woman Who Is Easy To Be With.” So be her. Because that relaxed, pretty woman is a real part of who you are, too. Let him appreciate your imperfections over time.Don’t allow your profile to get in the way of a real-life meeting.
Tip #2: Wear Your Hair Long, Regardless of Your Age
Your photo is the most important part of your profile. Men will overlook some nuttiness in the written description if they really like how you look. And we’ve already talked about dating success being a numbers game; more responses equals more chances of a quality match.
Having long hair is part of an overall strategy to maximize your appeal and reach more men. (As is removing your glasses, if you ordinarily wear them.) Look, I know you love your short, sassy hair. I understand why you dread the awkwardness of growing out a fashionable cut, or the expense and TLC that hair extensions require. But if there’s a simple way to appeal to a large segment of the male population, why wouldn’t you do it? Men respond to long hair. Let’s just embrace it and move on.
Tip #3: Smile—like You Mean It
We put a lot of energy into figuring out what our best assets are and highlighting them. Beautiful eyes or a curvy shape or a dancer’s long legs—most women know which physical assets to play up in a photograph. But surprisingly few women understand that one feature is more alluring than all the rest, and can instantly transform how men perceive you: a sparkling, happy expression.
Your smile is so sexy to men! I have reviewed profile pics that are serious, grumpy, bored, and depressed looking —selected because the woman liked “the way the necklace brings out the gold flecks in my eyes” or “the dress is coral and I’m a Summer” or “I love those earrings” (all real comments from actual clients). Trust me: guys don’t care if you’re a “Summer” or if your earrings match your outfit. Men want to date the desirable, happy woman — and it’s your smile that tells him that’s exactly who you are.
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